Our Fifth Childbirth: Surprise!

This is the final birth story, in my series of childbirth’s; you can read more about my other birth stories here.  Every woman’s response to birth, medication, and postpartum is different.  This is my personal experience; consult your doctor before making decisions about your pregnancy, and labor.

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After having my fourth child, my husband underwent a vasectomy.  He followed doctor’s orders, and after two check-ups with the doctor, he was confirmed as infertile.

Nine months later, the Lord decided to override our plans, and the surgery.

We were dumbfounded by our little surprise!  So much, that we kept saying, “How did this happen?”  And every time we shared our story with someone, they laughed.  At some point, we began to laugh as well, and we still giggle at the events.  I’ll have to share more on this another time.

Because my last labor didn’t go as well as I’d liked, I did some thinking during this pregnancy.

Do I really want to go through a natural childbirth again?

Something that I haven’t shared with you yet, is that I honestly don’t enjoy natural childbirth.  I don’t despise it, and the benefits far out weigh the work involved.  But since I thought I wasn’t going to be having any more children, I was relieved to think that I wasn’t going to give birth again.

When it comes down to it, there’s preparation to be done, and it’s quite a bit of work.  I entertained delusions that receiving an epidural would actually make my pregnancy and delivery easier, by providing less work for me.

After having four children, I knew it was a silly notion, but I thought about it anyway.

After much thought, I came to the conclusion that as much as I didn’t want to go through the work of labor, either way, I’m going to have to give birth.  There’s just no way around it.

So, I might as well give myself the best chances for a good recovery.

In my past birth experiences, this is where natural childbirth has made all the difference for me.  Recovering from an un-medicated childbirth was light years better than recovering from a medicated birth.  Life has enough challenges when adjusting to caring for five children, so I decided it really is best to try for an un-medicated birth again.

Once again, I set goals for myself in regards to natural childbirth:

  • Avoid induction unless absolutely necessary
  • As always, leave the bag of waters intact for as long as possible
  • Labor in the tub

Say what?  Labor in the tub?  Caroline, you must be really weird!

Alright, alright, I know it sounds weird to many people (I was one of them once), but think about the tub for a moment.  Doesn’t it feel nice to get into a warm bath to soak?

There’s a reason for that.

The warm water has an impact on your body, and even though laboring in the tub is very different than soaking in the tub, it’s still an effective way of coping with labor pain.

Now that we have that out of the way, let’s move on.  🙂

From my experience with the previous labors, I expected to be late.  And as the due date came and went, I wondered if I would end up with an induction again.

Those last few weeks were difficult for me emotionally.  I remember crying every day for no reason; I felt as if I was experiencing the baby blues before the baby came.  And passing my due date, with no sign of progression or contractions, simply enhanced my emotional drama.

I began to fear induction, and tried to come to grips with it.

However, God is good!  A week past my due date, at 10:30 in the evening, I started having contractions.  And interestingly enough, it started while I was in the tub!  They didn’t feel completely normal, so I called the local natural birthing expert again, my mother-in-law (who happened to be my doula, also).  After talking with me, she knew I was in labor, so she started heading over to my house.

My husband called back about ten minutes later with the message of, “Get here now!  Or we’re having a home birth!”, which would have made her happy.

We arrived at the hospital, and I was able to hop into the tub!  Yep, the hospital had a tub, and I got in.  No straps, no questions, no forms, just laboring in the tub like I wanted.  Shortly after, the doctor showed up, and do you know what she did?

She held the monitor on my belly to listen to the baby, and watch the contractions.

She did not strap it on, and leave me.  As a matter of fact, she stayed in the room with us until it was time for delivery!  She really was an awesome doctor.

Did sitting in the tub relieve my labor pain?  No, but it helped me cope with the pain.

When I felt the need to push, I got out of the tub, and into the labor bed.  I was once again experiencing back labor (agonizing, I tell you, just agonizing), so my doula (mother-in-law) suggested I try birthing on my hands and knees.

Huh?

Up to this point all of my births used the traditional pushing position: lying on my back with my legs in stirrups.  Very uncomfortable, difficult to push a baby out, and increases the risk for tearing and hemorrhoids.

Sounds strange, but I did what she said.  And it was actually easier to push the baby out!  My doctor sat on the bed, and did a perineal massage to support the perineum.

The baby was born, and I felt like a champion!  That was a three and a half hour long short labor!  Amazing, right?

This was by far my best recovery.  I felt great after the other natural childbirths, but this time I did not tear, and I did not have any hemorrhoids!  YAY!

I credit my fantastic recovery to several things: avoiding induction, using natural coping methods for pain, different pushing position, and the perineal massage.

After five babies, this was the first time I came home and didn’t even feel as though I had a baby!

I didn’t know that was possible.

I would have thought, that after five births I would be able to know what to expect in labor and delivery.  However, that’s not the case; each birth has proven to be different.  And regardless of what happened in my previous births, I can simply give thanks to the Lord for the gift he has given me.

The gift of life.

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I’d love to hear your what you think, share your thoughts with me!

First Birth Story

Second Birth Story

Third Birth Story

Fourth Birth Story

31 thoughts on “Our Fifth Childbirth: Surprise!

    1. Thank you, Kathleen! I enjoy reading birth stories as well, and it’s been so much fun writing about my births. So glad you stopped by! 🙂

    1. Thank you, Rachel! Yes, my doctor is an absolute jewel. The story was just published, but my baby is now 15 months old; it was fun to re-live the events! 🙂 So glad you stopped by!

  1. This gives me hope! I’m 29 weeks with baby #3…I’ve had two inductions, 3 epidurals (my first labor it didn’t take the first time), and a broken tailbone with my last that still hurts every day 15 months later. I have a lot of room for improvement when it comes to labor experiences! I’m going to do everything in my power to avoid induction.
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    1. Hi Kimberly! Thanks for stopping by again! I remember you mentioning your tailbone in your last comment, and I’m so impressed that you continue to have children after experiencing that type of trauma. That would be a great post to share with others; I think it would be encouraging to women who experience trauma during childbirth. Prayers for your upcoming birth, and for the pain you’re currently experiencing. 🙂

  2. Thanks for sharing your story and congratulations on your surprise! 🙂 I am always so inspired by natural births. We planned for one but didn’t assemble a very good team of people to help us, and my son was born via cesarean. I dealt with PPD afterward, but am hoping that next time around things will be different as we try for a vbac. Glad to connect with you! You seem like a wonderful mama. New follower! -Andrea
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    1. Thank you, Andrea! So glad to connect with you, and blessings to you for the next delivery! PPD can be tough, and very serious. Sounds like you came through it, though. Thank you for your encouragement! 🙂

  3. Wow! What an incredible birth story! I love that your hospital and doctor never made you be strapped down to the monitors and that they have a tub. I wish we had places around where I live like that! We have birth centers, but to find that in a hospital is next to impossible. Congratulations!!

    1. It’s not the norm around here to have tubs in the hospital, and I think the hospital we used is an older one (which is why they have the tub). So, a blessing indeed! Thanks for stopping by!

    1. Thank you, Katherine! I agree, a great reminder of God’s goodness and his plans for us. Thanks for stopping by, and for hosting the link-up; I’ve been enjoying the link-up so much! 🙂

    1. Thank you Krystal! It’s so easy to think back over the “what-ifs” of our births; I remember doing that with my un-medicated births. However, whether it’s by natural, medicated, or cesarean, praise God for the sweet babies he’s blessed us with! I appreciate, and enjoy the link-up!

    1. Thank you, Honey! How wonderful that you’re a doula! Doula’s are awesome; having a doula at my births have helped me so much. 🙂

  4. Great birth story and what an awesome surprise baby!!! I had my first baby naturally and recover went very smoothly. I’m HOPING to have future babies naturally, too, but like you said, every baby/birth is different! Only God knows how future deliveries will go for me, if He blesses us with more children 🙂 I guess the not-knowing is part of the fun of babies (but, personally, also one of the scariest parts!)

    I saw your post on the Babies & Beyond Link-up 🙂
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    1. I’m with you, even though not knowing is fun, it’s also really scary. Thankfully we can trust the Lord in the process. Thanks for stopping by, Amy! 🙂

  5. I love your birth story! I was so blessed to have a fantastic midwife with our third child and had a water birth at the hospital. I love how you said the tub didnt take away the pain but it helped you cope with it. I have had a hard time describing how the tub helped to people and that was perfect! I love how God blessed you with a 5th baby! How amazing! Thanks for stopping by and linking up with us on MMM link up party! I look forward to reading what you link up next week!
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  6. This was refreshing to read. We are on (surprise) number five, two and a half years post vasectomy. My fourth childbirth experience was horrific due to induction; I almost bled to death during a 13 hour labor. I just discussed a natural birth with my husband and the other three were helped along with both blue and black cohosh and I believe we will go that route this time. Thanks for posting.

    1. So glad this touched you, and congratulations on your sweet surprise!

      I’m so sorry about your traumatic birth experience; a friend of mine once shared with me her near death birth experience, and I was so shocked to hear that women are experiencing these types of births this day & age. Praise the Lord that you are here, alive & well!

      I’ve never used blue & black cohosh, but have heard about it among my natural friends. Blessings for your upcoming birth, and prayers that it is smoother than the last! 🙂

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